29. Divorced. Living with my parents. May not be able to afford a home. Don’t know where I want to live, or if I even want to stay in Michigan.
“If I stay in Michigan, am I settling? Am I a failure if I stay here? Am I a failure if I move away again and hate it? Did I cause my marriage to fail? Will my heart ever be whole again?”
All of these feelings are flooding my mind lately. I have been feeding “the bad wolf.”
BUT I have also been feeding “the good wolf.”
“Maybe I need to be surrounded by some of my best friends and parents in Michigan right now. Maybe if I were living by myself I would feel even more alone. Maybe I don’t have to have all the answers on where to live yet, and maybe I can travel a bit to figure that out. Or stay put. I don’t have to do a damn thing if I don’t want to!”
Although being here (‘here’ means being around certain people) reminds of me times that I’ve been hurt, I’m also finding new and old friendships pulling me out of despair and into a feeling of inclusion and, dare I say, home.
Chicago probably isn’t in the cards; I gave that place and experience my everything. But if I stay in Michigan, I’m not a failure. If I move away and hate it, I’m not a failure. If I move away and love it, I’m not a failure. If I ever find love again and it doesn’t pan out the way I want it to, I’m not a failure. I’m not a failure for spending thanksgiving with another family other than my own. And I’m certainly not a failure for feeling all these conflicting emotions while I’m healing my broken heart. ❤️
Media taken November 1 – 16, 2022
Adventure in Spades 
Keep going nothing can stop you;) God has got your back;)
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Thank you so much, Aumh! I really needed that today 🤗
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Hoping all goes well .take care Anita
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Thank you so much, Anita! 💛
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Trust me. If there’s a failure about, it is me. I can relate to living with your parents. I do and I am 53. But I am used to living alone and i will eventually prevail. You will make your way too. Just be patient with yourself. You are not a failure.
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Thank you so much for the encouraging words. And you are NOT a failure, either! It’s so easy to beat ourselves up but we also have to look at how far we’ve come 💛
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You are not a failure – ever. You are brave for starting all over again. The world is your oyster just give it time. I moved to Egypt when I was 42 and then migrated to the USA. My best decade was my fifties when I traveled solo to remote places in central America and the far East. Enjoy this period of healing with friends and family. One day you might live thousands of miles from family like me!
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Thank you so much for your encouragement, Kerry! You’re absolutely right; it’s always okay to start over again. And life certainly doesn’t end at 25!!! Thank you for sharing your story and journey with me 💛
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You are most welcome, Cate. 💟
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Keep going 😊
More power to you ❤️
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Thank you so much, Mirha! 🤗💛
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My pleasure ❤️
Can I get a follow ☺️
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A grounded attitude wrapped in acceptance. That seems half the battle – usually the most challenging part. Best wishes to you, Cate.
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Thank you so much, Michele! It is indeed!
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Hi, I’m Jessica from Unmeasured Journeys. This is the post that I commented on then my comment disappeared. I’m not sure what happened to it, but I had written something sweet and supportive… What I love about this post is the genuine in it. I remember I had written something about how divorce may feel like a loss- maybe that grief comes with divorce, too. Life seems to be full of ways that can feel like loss and can leave us feeling a little lost. I hope you are feeling better now. Some time has passed. I’ll try to catch up with your posts.
I have two blogs- art and life. ❤️
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Hi Jessica! Thank you so much for reaching out! Yes, I remember this and I can’t find your comment anywhere in my pending or deleted ones. I’m so so sorry but I really appreciate you reaching out again! I look forward to following your other blog as well 😀💛
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Oh, I’m sooo happy that you got this. I commented on several of your posts yesterday and it said something like “your comment is waiting in moderation.” I checked back later and didn’t see them. I thought it was doing the same thing. Yay! It’s not! Not sure why it’s doing that from my other blog…. Thank you- I appreciate you reading both of my blogs. Hope you have a great day.
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I’m so sorry about your other comments! I checked and I can’t seem to find them… but thank you for leaving one here 🤍
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You’re welcome. Glad I have my art blog- that way I can.
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I hope you have a great day as well!
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